Wedding Nightmares & Theme Change Scare

So lately I've been having wedding nightmares.  Most of the time it's about me showing up and nothing has been done.  Like it's suddenly the day of our wedding and I'm there but nothing is right, or nothing is there.

Most recently the whole day was wrong.  I didn't have flowers and FFIL had to go buy random ones at the grocery store and my bouquet was only a few stems while my girls had huge arrangements.  I wasn't dressed and everyone was arriving and I was standing outside and everyone saw me getting into my dress.  My BM's were late arriving because they had no idea what time the wedding was.  Etc. etc. etc.  I wonder if it's normal to have dreams like that, or if it means I'm a bridezilla and need to let someone else have a little bit of control over some of this day.

I'm sure the nightmares will abound tonite because I had a theme change scare earlier this evening.  I am obsessed with Alice in Wonderland.  Everyone who knows me knows it.  I'm in a sorority and my paddle my big made me is Alice.  I could teach a class or write a book on Alice philosophy.  So tonite I get this idea in my head that I want an Alice wedding.  And oy vey did it get out of control fast.  It started with cute ideas like "drink me" tea bag favors and "open me" envelope seals for our invites, but quickly escalated to our groomsmen wearing top hats and having a croquet game set up outside.  I got it out of my system then took a step back and decided it would get overly corny way too fast.  Maybe I can convince whoever throws my shower to have a Very Merry Unbridal Shower and let me plan it.

Sometimes I wish it was next year at this time.  While I know I'll be way more stressed out, the wedding will also be closer and I'll at least know all the major details (venue, vendors, date, time, etc.) have been taken care of.